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FALLS CHURCH, Va.- November is Warrior Care Month. No one truly knows the life of a caregiver until they end up in that position themselves. “This is my full-time job now because of Jack’s stroke. I had to quit my job to be a full-time caregiver. I am the caregiver-in-chief now,” chuckles Gloriah Peko, who is celebrating 9 years of marriage with her Soldier husband, Sgt. 1st Class Jack Peko. He suffered a stroke due to a brain tumor on November 3, 2022.
The Peko household was turned upside down, and the caregiver-in-chief had to ease their four children into their new normal. Eight-year-old Jayden is the oldest and has the most memories of his Dad before the stroke. He admits it’s been an adjustment: “I was feeling a little frustrated because Daddy was different. We have to work hard every day to communicate. He gets to come see me play soccer, and he is a big cheerleader—I hear him cheering for me.”
Jack Peko is in a wheelchair and has mobility issues along with impaired speech. Gloriah says there is always the Jack factor when she or the family does anything. “When I want to go somewhere, I have to find someone to help care for him. If I have to run to the store, for example, Jack has to go with me, or someone has to be here.”
Gloriah and Jack are thankful her parents live nearby. “They’ve been a huge help with our kids. My Mom’s been dropping them off and picking them up from school. She is such a big help.”
Being a caregiver in the Peko house is magnified to the 10th power for Gloriah with kids aged 2, 4, 7, and 8, plus keeping up with her husband’s schedule. In a slow and eager voice, SFC Peko shares their hectic day. “Every day, Gloriah will help me do my stretches, walking just to warm up my legs and working my arms. I have occupational and physical therapy, which I go to as well. Our days are full. If I have a doctor's appointment, it throws a wrench in my routine.”
Gloriah explains how military spouses tend to stay focused on the original plan. When faced with this challenge, she is beyond thankful for the Fort Riley Soldier Recovery Unit and how they’ve been a constant source of support. “We feel so much better now. Two years ago, when the stroke happened, we had no idea what was going to happen next. We didn’t have an alternative plan because THE plan was for us to serve 20 years. Well, that isn’t happening. Our time at the SRU with everyone has been such a Godsend. We are grateful for what they have done for Jack and what they are doing for us beyond the Army.”
Gloriah feels compelled to ask other military spouses if they have a disaster plan. “What’s your disaster plan? It’s a shock when you don’t have one, and something happens,” she says thoughtfully, wanting other military spouses to think about that.
Sgt. 1st Class Peko talks about how their plan derailed everything.” It’s a big adjustment. I didn’t think about school or anything after the Army because I wanted a twenty-year career. I constantly think about it now because I have to support my family.”
Peko’s Transition Coordinator at the Fort Riley SRU, Lisa Smith, works hard to ensure Soldiers are ready for work. In Peko’s case, she researched all the courses he could take to help him find a career after the Army. “I’m going to work in IT. She has me taking courses on the computer at home. I have so many options to look into,” said SFC Peko excitedly.
Adaptive sports have played an enormous part in his recovery as well. Peko was on Team Army and competed at this year's Warrior Games in Orlando, Florida, where he brought home four silver medals. It’s now a part of his life, he says. “I try to squeeze adaptive sports into my days when I don’t have an appointment. The SRU is great about having me come in and work for an hour with archery. My goal is to continue in adaptive sports, and I definitely want to try out for Team Army again.”
According to Gloriah, the hard work of being a caregiver can be slow and frustrating at first. She encourages patience and ‘me- time’ for any caregiver: “Be patient with the loved one you are taking care of. Be prepared and try to find time for yourself. You need that so you don’t go over the edge.”
As he completes his medical board process, Sgt. 1st Class Peko reflects on his journey and says the best-laid plans can change, but family makes all the difference. “I think the hardest part is I was so used to supporting my family, and now I watch them do everything- the table is turned. I love my family so much.”
| Date Taken: | 11.26.2024 |
| Date Posted: | 12.02.2024 11:56 |
| Story ID: | 486170 |
| Location: | US |
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